Hi, My Loves ∼
I’ve been wanting to jump on here to talk about a great conversation I had this weekend about positive energy and visualization and law of attraction and all those buzz words about creating a better life.
I read a lot of personal growth books and listen to so many podcasts. Recently, I’ve been listening to Eckhart Tolle and Oprah dissect A New Earth chapter by chapter. For those of you who are familiar with A New Earth, it’s exactly about that- creating a new spiritual earth through our thoughts and actions. But more importantly this idea of letting go of the ego and staying in the present.
Anyway, I was asked this weekend if I really believed in this idea of being positive and creating positive energy. and law of attraction. And how all that works out for me in my life.
The first thing that I want to say and said this weekend is that any type of spiritual practice requires daily and intentional focus in order for it create change. We are human beings and we are prone to falling off the wagon- often. Many times we give up and we say that’s it, but really what we should be doing is resetting and hopping back on the wagon.
At the beginning of this year I made a commitment to keep getting back on the spiritual wagon no matter how many times I fell off or how long I stayed off.
And this is what I’ve noticed.
Typically the beginning of the year is always a hard time for me financially. It’s after the holidays, a time I overspent. Sometimes I am backed up in my bills so I am playing a lot of catch up until income tax time. Then income tax refund comes and I can’t really enjoy the refund because I am still playing catch up. I spend a lot of the new year stressed out and worried about money.
This year has been a very different experience. I’ve been blessed and abundant in so many ways and I know it has a lot to do with staying positive and letting go of the things I can not control.
- Stress is useless. Really. Stress is created when we worry about the things we can NOT control. The past nor the future. Listen I am not saying you shouldn’t give a crap if your past due on bills or making ends meet. Try this exercise the next time you open a bill that you are like “Shit, I can’t pay this.”
- Sit looking at the bill. You can’t pay it right? So then what? Does stress help you pay it? Probably not. Does money appear from anywhere the longer you look at it? No. If you go to bed crying, can you pay it? No.
What if you shifted your focus from the bill to what you already have – your health, your cute little grandson, a job, etc.? How does that feel the moment you start being grateful for what you have? There should be a shift in your energy because now you are focused on what is, not what could have been or will be because at the end of the day we have no control over those things.
2. Second is that the only person that can control my mood is me. How often have you heard someone say “Ugh, he just totally pissed me off.” Why? The reason you’re still pissed off over someone’s actions is because you can’t control it. And the reality is who cares? I mean, why do we give people so much power over our emotions?
One of my favorite quotes is “People do the best they can with what they know.” When I have an interaction with someone that has the potential of putting me in a bad mood, I repeat that quote over and over again until it doesn’t even matter anymore. Does this make sense? I hope so.
3. Lastly, I am the only person that can set the tone for my day. If I say I am going to have a great day, I pretty much always do by just making that statement. Really, it’s true. Because once I make that statement I pretty subconsciously take steps to make it happen. I dress nicer. I might put on a bright lipstick. I play happy music on the way to work. I post positive quotes on my social media. I greet people with a smile, kind word and make eye contact. I mean I could go and on.
So going a back to my conversation this weekend, yes I believe that we create our own positive energy and that we can attract it. Our minds are so much more powerful than we think.
I believe that if we staying the present moment and focusing on what is right here right now, we change the shift in our attitudes and moods. Take every opportunity you can to give thank, for every little thing good or bad in your life. Because it all matters and serves a purpose.
Most importantly, remember it’s not how many times you start or try, it’s that you keep on that counts.
So with that all said, I challenge you today and for the rest of the week to get up each day, regardless of how terrible things may seem (because that’s an illusion) and commit to having a great day and being positive and grateful. Then come in a week and tell me how it went.
See you soon!